I am really at the end of my rope I just don't know where to turn and the internet is my last hope.

I have a friend that I roomed with in college. I didn't meet her until I actually moved in with her and did not learn that she is bipolar until about 6 months after living with her.

My grandmother was bipolar so I feel as though I have a large amount of patience with her, but I just don't know what to do anymore.

She has gotten help, but while living with her I found a bag in our garage
filled with medication bottles that were still full so I can only imagine that
she was not taking them at the time.

Now we are both adults and out of school and I've recently gotten married so we no longer live together but she has pretty much attached herself to me because everyone else in her life has had enough and I am the only person who will listen to her.

I've had times when she has called me in the middle of the night screaming that she is going to kill herself then she hangs up so by
the time my husband and I get up and drive the 20 minutes to her
apartment and beat down the down she says "oh I'm fine" and she is
perfectly calm.

She breaks up with her boyfriend it seems at least once a week.
She calls me screaming about him, her mom, or sister at least once
a week.

About a month ago we had a bad cancer scare with my dad and
she called me asking me to spend time with her and blew up saying
I didn't care about her mean while I was waiting to find out the result
of my dad's surgery.

Two nights ago she called me and had a total melt down screaming at me
at the top her her lungs that I don't care about her and never spend time
with her when it seems that all I do lately is spend time with her. I've even taken away from spending time with my husband to try to be a good friend to her. Everything I said to her was turned around to prove how wrong I am.


I just can't do it anymore.... I just can't. This has ruined relationships with my other friends and I don't want it to start effecting my marriage. I feel like she is sucking the life out of me. I know that sounds horrible but I just can't do it anymore.

She was so said on a new med that seemed to be doing well for her, but my guess is that she hasn't been taking them once again because it just seems to never end.

I've sought out the advice of my family and friends and everyone thinks I need to end my relationship with her, but I just don't know how.

She seems to erupt no matter what I say to her. I just don't know what to do because I feel so guilty if I don't try to help her. I feel like if the next time she calls me saying she is going to kill herself I don't do something and she actually does it then it makes it my fault for not trying.

Can anyone who has been on either side of a similar situation tell me what to do? I just don't know anymore....