William, I am new to pc and maybe not the best person to give relationship advise but this caught my attention so here goes! You don't know....that 's what trust is, not knowing but accepting who a person is and what they tell you at face value! If the person does something to break that trust then you have a choice to either trust that person again or move on. If the problem is that YOU are not able to trust then that is not the girlfriends fault and should not be her problem. If the problem is in you, then that needs to be resolved before you can have a trusting relationship with anyone. I do not think stalking is ever the answer! If you assume someone is cheating with nothing to base that on other than your own insucurities and issues you are sabbatoging your own relationship before it even has a chance. Expecting "bad" sometimes causes "bad" when there would not be otherwise. I hope this makes sense when you read it! It makes sense in my head but that does not mean it actually makes sense! Hope this works out for you one way or another!
-reaching4higher-
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Originally Posted by william1971
The thing I want to ask everyone is; how does one know if your with someone who is a cheater unless you do the footwork. Asking that person doesn't get you anywhere! A cheater isn't going to tell you flat out, "I'm a cheater". It doesn't work that way. Under the circumstances, things have gotten in the way of me completely trusting her so, I want to find out for myself whether she can be trusted. Is this so wrong?
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