I forgot to answer the question about if it still affects me.

the answer is yes, it raises itself when I'm least expecting it too. I still suffer with the whole baggage that comes with being in a violent relationship. it took meyears to learn how to trust men again. Nightmares, recurrent thoughts of what he did to me.

I now have a super supportive loving caring husband, that knows all about the violent relationship I had. It has helped heal me from that experience.