First off, it is not wrong to still be a virgin and it isn't stupid at all. But what you have said about yourself is true, you are using sexual attention for the wrong reasons. Sex is meant to be special and it isn't fair to yourself to have sex just to have it. If you don't want it then don't have it. You don't need to overcomplicated that. It sounds like you need to work on dealing with your use of sex as a crutch. This may require a lot of effort and could take a long time but it will be worth it. You may wish to seek professional help to deal with things. I wish you the best of luck and I hope this helped.