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BTW that was a beautiful tribute by your present wife naming your daughter after your late wife Alice.
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Yeah... I didn't even mention Alice as a name. It was really thoughtful of her...
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Are you wheelchair bound? Would you mind me asking if you've actually been diagnosed a psychopath or are you assuming you'll turn out like your father?
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No, just pain killers and a gimp. I'll never run again, but it's not like I ever did to begin with... I am official. In the psych ward, I was diagnosed with ODD. I had high Pd (Psychopathic deviant) on the mmpi. And I received a 32 on my first pcl-r, a 34 on the second. I was also asked to do a study on psychopathic neuropathology and was administered an mri. The results were typical in psychopaths.
If you haven't read Dr. Hare's book, psychopaths are basically destined to cause destruction. Even psychopaths who grew up in loving homes create chaos in everything they touch. It's just who we are.
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It's easy when you've been through trauma like you have, to turn hateful but if you work on healing, there's no guarantee you'll be like him. He's not alive anymore, yet he still has control over you as long as the hate has a hold of you. Do you have a therapist and are you on medication?
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The hatred for him had kept me from becoming like him. I understand that I'm living my life with his influence, but it has still been for the better. And it worked for the moment... I have a therapist, a counselor, and a psychiatrist. However, the therapist is the only one who actually picks up his phone when he sees my number on caller i.d... I am on painkillers and sleeping pills, but nothing for any sort of mental illness.
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You have a new baby girl - babies are born with a clean slate and new life. I also know babies can also put alot of stress on parents and your wife will need support. I know you're used to her accomodating you, so this might make you feel more stressed.
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Tell me about it... Thank God we have nannies...
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Have you been taught management skills to control your anger? If not I encourage you to join one of those anger support groups. You can also learn deep slow breathing exercises and counting to ten when you're upset. I see you don't like your MIL but it best to try to get along, since it's your wifes mother and this is her 1st grandchild. Remember just because you're your father's son, doesn't mean you're guaranteed to turn out like him.
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I have been to a few of those. Unfortunately, though, the guy who aids in that class has a restraining order against me. My therapist coaches me in anger management and with whole manipulation thing. Fortunately, my homicidal outbursts of rage, while intense, rarely last more than a minute. And they occasionally make for funny stories.
I usually don't get past number five before a tire iron goes flying through the cabinets and my wife chases me out of the kitchen with a knife. Another funny story... I've found that beating the crap out of a punching bag helps release that rage a little, and the outbursts happen less often. It's good exercise too...