I did start a complaint with the APA over a year ago, but I haven't completed the 2nd step. If I thought he was endangering anyone else, I would in a heartbeat. He has never been reported before and he has been practicing for over 20 years.

I honestly believe his feelings for me surprised him and he didn't know what to do. I think for an older T, they are sometimes too embarrest to get help. He has one of the best reputations and he supervises other T's. Not that is an excuse, but I think things got carried away because this was unlike him normally. It could have been a mid life crisis type thing or a bored in his marriage thing. I don't know really. Except I am one hot tamale! lol just kidding. It shouldn't have happened, but it did. There was a lot of sexual tension in the room. But my current T told me it was up to him to keep those boundaries.

We did have incredible chemistry and so much in common. I know that sounds like a clique' but it is true. I could see him struggling with his feelings, it was so obvious. He would act cold one session and hot in another. I think he was scared, and when I would try to confront him about that, he got even more scared. I don't think he has a pattern of this, at least not the sexual stuff. I do know that even he says he discloses more than the APA would approve of. He did tell me that he probably has told me more about him than any other client he has had, we worked together for 2 1/2 years. It wasn't therapy, it was more like social thing, so I did learn a lot about him. But he still hurt me and for that, it is hard to get over.