Rainbow- I think you may be able to evaluate a lot in a first session. See how interested and attentive she is to your issues. Does she "get it"? I would say, talk about your history, what you are concerned with, the same things you discussed on the phone but you can go into more detail. See how she responds to you. Really try to listen to see if she is a fit for you. Does she seem to understand intuitively what you need and are asking for? Does she want to go in the direction that you want to go in? Do the inner child work or whatever it is you want to do?

I think you will know it you are comfortable with her and if she has the attitude toward the bpd diagnosis that you are looking for. I was a little wary when ftt said she doesnt think much of diagnosis, but now I understand why.