I agree with both Mary Alice and Jill. You can talk to someone and be firm, respectful and kind. You can be honest without hurting intentionally. You can be direct without being forceful.

I think it's important to treat all people with respect. Of course there are those that don't deserve it but that doesn't mean I cannot ACT in a respectful manner towards them. That's not giving them anything. That's keeping something for myself.

Compliments are nice. Being nice is nice. Sincerity is important. If someone says you look good and then turns around laughing....well you get it. I don't believe in being nice to someone because that's what they want to here. I will be nice to someone because they need to hear it but only if it comes from my heart.

Thanks for asking Fuzzy :O)
Heidu

When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.- Alexander Graham Bell