Hi Veggy,

Yes, it's true that we cannot diagnose on this website. But let me ask you a question. Try and put your emotions aside and look at your bf's behavior. Does any of it look stable, sensible, trustworthy, consistent or safe? Would you advise a gf of yours to stay with a guy like this?

I would say there is definitely something going on wth him if not several somethings. And like BNLsMOM said, you could probably use some advice (counseling) on how best to deal with this guy. I would suggest you see someone and don't tell him about it. I get this gut feeling that he might also have a possible explosive component to his personality.

It might be possible, with your counselor's help, to slow the relationship down long enough for him to get himself into a situation where he is forced into a medical evaluation and they find out what is going on with him. Then you will know for sure what exactly is happening.

I can also tell you from experience that there is always, in any relationship, the possibility, that the man can become aggressive and that's not a good situation to be in. So be aware of that. Of course, it might be a part of a mental illness.

I hope some of this has helped. Best of luck.