he he that is what I said too. He has the excuse of its for the kids. (boys 11 and 4) The last one he doesn't think is his. And apparently they haven't slept together in months. I wouldn't know though. I think he uses his kids way too much as an excuse. From what he says she isn't very good. She doesn't do anything around the house,he does laundry dishes and cooks. she sleeps and doesn't do much else. And he can't leave her now because her hand is all messed up. I told him after that excuse it would be he can't leave her because it is winter and it will be cold and she wouldn't be able to deal with the furnance and wood stove. I just don't know. He says not to give up and give him time. I don't want him to think he can have his life with her and not for it to affect the life he has with me and think he can have them both. I look forward to his calls, but I know I am setting myself up. financially it would hurt him and he would want the kids and he wants the house and yeah...........i dont knwo how I can continue to be friends but....i dont know.......it sucks bad......should i give an ultimatum?