I used makeup and strategically styled clothing to cover up my scars until I felt there was a true connection and a possibility of a real relationship... before revealing all of my inner self. There was a time when I was way too open, way too fast, and it made me vulnerable to a lot of hurt unnecessarily.

What worked for me was to gradually open-up, and to get to know each other before prematurely airing all of my issues. I didn't lie, but I guess I hid it well until there was some trust and depth in the relationship. Most of the time there was no need to tell, because I ended up not wanting the relationship to go further anyway. I don't have any regrets about protecting myself by waiting. It's been a while since I last SI'd, and most of my battle scars have faded...I think for me staying away from painful situations and nurturing myself greatly lessened the urges to SI.

I would definitely wait if I were scared and worried, and he was unsure...go slow and get to know him better first.

Great job on stopping for a week! Just take it one day at time, and take care of yourself!