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lynn P. · 02:44 PM

I think there are many different types of introversion. There are those who are very content with being introverted and they enjoy their lives. I don't think they like being considered flawed or 'in a shell' and they don't want to change because they're happy with there lives. There are others who are unhappy and wish they could manage by learning behavioral techniques, that would modify their introverion and there are others, in between the two. I don't think it can ever be changed completely. Many performers are a mix of the two - social, outgoing on stage but introverted in their personal life.

I was very shy as a child until my early 20's but I wasn't happy being that shy. I wanted to improve my shyness so I learned to manage it well. I can be very social if necessary but I still consider myself an introvert though. I will share that, people like myself found/find it very painful when we were in social situations and it isn't our choice to be reserved. Even though we don't broadcast ourselves, we still have vivid personalities. I was very outgoing and colorful at home.

I think most people are born shy and introverted with some environmental factors involved. I think it all boils down to comfort - is the person happy with their personality - do they want to change or improve? If not, then people have to accept them the way they are and not think they need to be fixed. Introversion is not inferior to extroversion. I think perhaps some extroverted people might be judging out of fear - why doesn't this person respond or seem to like me?? They either don't care to be social because they're happy introverts or they can't because of fear.