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Originally Posted by salukigirl
I wasn't trying to offend anybody and I'm sorry. This person has openly said that they know they are insecure and would like to change that. I'm not trying to go around making everyone just like me. Sorry if it came across the wrong way. This person has already said all these things to me and said that they wish they were different.
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I can personally relate to this "task" of assisting someone who wishes to come out of their shell.
From my experience with the individual I'm helping to date is, it requires ALOT of MY invested patience, understanding, acceptance, dedication, loyalty, compassion and...time.
And what you can hope to antisipate from your friend mostly is trust, but that will come with time. The more he/she realizes they can trust you, the more they will respond, the more the progress made.
If you are sincere about helping this individual, please first ask yourself if you are capable of enduring a long haul of supporting him/her. This cannot be something that starts out with good intentions only to later discover that you cannot cope with the possible emotional demads from this individual, (of course, this depends on how severe this person is reserved and, primarily why).
Sometimes, what begins as our good intentions can only later end up hindering another. I'd hate for that to happen...for either of you.
You are a wonderful person for wanting to help. Your friend is very fortunate.
I wish the best of luck for the both of you....
Shangrala
