i do see it. i do. i just also think he can't seem to control it.. and the more i understand that there is something wrong with him, the less it hurts when he does it. the last awful thing he said to me was saying he left me because i was too fat for him. i didn't even believe him for a second and just pointed out how i knew he was lying and i hope he feels better soon. i know i shouldn't have to deal with things like that, but i have decided i want to be with him if we can work things out. i love him too much to just walk away.