i'm not giving him that much space anymore. when i give him space it's like he thinks he's right - that i will just get over him in a week. he always gets really, really mad at me before he calms down... so i just try to let him know each day that i love him, or i'll ask him if i can call him, and if he doesn't say no, i call. he doesn't answer, but i leave him voicemail telling him sweet dreams.

i can see him getting help one day..but only if someone he cares about convinces him it would be a good idea...and i'm the only person he would talk to every day before all this happened so i don't really think he has enough support right now to get to that place. his family talks to me a lot though, especially the ones he never visits, and telling them about things seems to have made them want to talk to him more and make sure he's doing okay so it's definitely progress. otherwise the person he is closest to just said he has bad genes and is hopeless