ozzie has some good ideas here Vuglarlove..

she is very wise. and said some of the things I was going to say.. but she beat me to the words today.. Which means great minds still think alike.. Talk to a therapist about the getting over him aspect..
This will be the hard thing..

he may or may not leave his wife of how ever many years they have been togther.. Trust me on this one.. I see how hurt you are over this and I can not fathom how badly you are hurting because I am the one who huert my ex over this and you know I did leave.. but it was not easy.. for him.. IT was easy for me cause I no longer loved him and but when you fall in love with someone it is very hard to walk away no matter what you say..

When a man or woman say they no longer love their husband or wife .. I am going on a limb here unless there is abuse or something else they will always in some ways still care for that person if they have kids with them.. That attachment is a bond that no woman can ever break no matter how young you are.. Belive me.. If my ex walked up to me and asked me to take him back it would be very hard to say no.. and it has been for one of them, because of my second child.. I still care for him because of that second child.. Getting him to say one thing and doing something elese will be worth a million words to you sweeite..

Take it from me.. walk away now.. and move on with your life .. .. I am only trying to help you out and give you advice.. I moved on because he said he could never love me, and he would never move out of his "grandparents home" (who he is married to in his on way) ** long story*****