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Elysium · Feb 03, 2010, 11:46 PM

Hi,

I find this topic interesting, yet strange. Not strange because I think it is wrong, because I don't really, just strange because it is different and I don't personally get it.

I do not, from what you have just posted, view you as "one of those people", so no worries there. I don't understand your fetish, but then again I don't really understand how people can have a thing for feet...or poodles. LOL!! (Not making fun of you, just trying to make you smile)

So, you mentioned that this fetish was the cause of your most recent break up and that you don't know why you enjoy such an embarrassing, socially unacceptable, disturbing thing like this.

I guess my first question for you would be what is causing you to feel embarrassed, ashamed, and disturbed? Is it the fact that you are actually interested in this type of lifestyle, or is it that you see other people's stigmatization of this lifestyle that causes you to feel these things. See, there is guilt, which is created within ourselves when we feel badly for our actions and then there is shame which is more often than not imposed upon us by another's judgment.

I mean, if you really enjoy this lifestyle and you're not hurting others by your participation, I don't see the issue. At that point I say be yourself and screw everybody else. If your Ex was not comfortable and you both attempted to compromise in the relationship and she still couldn't cope, then that sounds like her issue, not yours.

I know that there are others in the world who share your same fetish. I don't know if you've ever attempted to reach out and see if there was some sort of group that was involved in this lifestyle or if you've been too afraid to take that step, but it might be something to consider.

I'll be honest, it would creep me out a bit at first too, but only because I don't get it. Once I took the time to understand it though, it most likely would no longer be an issue. Unfortunately, not everyone can allow themselves to stray outside the box. For some, that's just to scary. But that has nothing to do with you.

Glad you found PC. Hope this helped some.