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Feb 04, 2010, 01:24 PM
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Member Since: Feb 2009
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 12,269
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Hi themoreloving1,
I'm so sorry for the pain you've endured and you'll find alot of support here. I agree with you, it doesn't do any good to sling mud at your husband. It's very normal to go through a grieving period - loss of your relationship and loss of the person you thought he was. I suspect this was very painful for him too and I bet he didn't want to hurt you. I think men in this position are scared and think they can suppress their feelings. I don't believe your husband is a bad man - he's just a wounded person who didn't listen to his own feelings.
I don't think you want to be in a place where you feel angry or resentful. You can even love him as a person, not necessarily as your husband. You both need understanding and compassion. I hope the church is supportive and not trtying to make him a villian? I will pray for you and your ex  - that you both will find peace and resolution
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