I am a gay male, that used to smoke pot and listen to hardcore music. I get frustrated at women as friends and everything else and when I did have a scene to partake in the lesbian women that I talked to acted more masculine than me and I felt intimidated. I like men, straight or gay to talk with. I would smoke weed if I could but I don't think it would help my mental state and I have been dating men lately and get bored really quickly unless there is action. I don't grope anyone unless they communicate with me that that's the next step. Just be careful who you meet. Telling a girl that maybe wants a family and all that jazz that you have had sex with men and are bi-sexual is like dumping cold water on her, I would imagine. I don't know how to find just people that have no strings attached in one way or another and with women it seems there are more strings.