welcome, bonaire. PC is a good place to be.

i think that your wife may be feeling pretty powerless right now. she had an operation scheduled and it got cancelled. that can be terribly frustrating for someone who is in pain and worried about her health. she would probably like to feel more in control of her life right now. your making the phone call, without asking her, probably frustrated her very much. she's in a very emotional place. i've had a hysterectomy and the pain and discomfort, before the surgery, is pretty intense. it can make for a very uncomfortable emotional state. i know it did for me.

it's her movie right now and it's her body. and that surgery is major. especially, if it's abdominal surgery. recovery takes awhile, either way. please be patient and consider that this is more about her, than you. best, pat