What a manpulative p"#&! My mom will pull this sometimes, but not to that degree, partly because she knows my oldest son and my hubby will take her on it. But never so thought out and consistantly as this. He "needs" to get a drink and he calls YOU crazy? Yeah. Right.
That said, Moose, can you think a way of changing your own battle rules? I can't tell you how, but it seems to me he goads you, you, understandably, blow, and he has "proof" that you are crazy. I used to blow all the time, then i just realize I was playing into people's hands. Just a thought.
heart goes out to you. That is no way to have to live. Huggs