I've listened to a lot of the recordings of Wayne Dyer lately. He basically solves this situation by saying that you shouldn't let others affect your life/mind/emotions - everything is based on how you experience life. For example - you may want to treat every silly request by the bf with a tinge of humor... "He's asking those silly questions again - don't let it get to me..."

Never ever let someone else bring you to the point of thinking of harming yourself. I let my feelings of someone close get me to that point at one time and have worked hard to squash those feelings and it's been great. What I'm saying here is "I let myself get to that point - that other person had no responsibility to let me want to harm myself, only I did".

If you can - see if you can work with a therapist regarding this. They can help you find peace within yourself. The answer does lie within you.

Also, never ever let a bf run/ruin/over run your life. You can live life successfully alone or with someone else. They don't own you.