Pat - thanks much. Right you are in many areas. The thing is I do wish she would do things slightly different ( as we all do wish our loved ones were "better" at times ). Judgements? I know she judges me and I've dealt with the topic with both couples and individual T-sessions. So, I hear what you're saying. Our culture teaches us to judge others - getting rid of the judgements is a life-long process. Stinkin' culture!

I actually don't want answers to some of these rhetrorical questions. What I personally lack is some of these intricate senses that many people have in terms of "what to do". I was raised as an only child by an older (by 45-years) mother has left me learning every day of my life. Excuse? Sure. Source of my ability to not sense her? Definitely. Something that is possible to overcome? Maybe but it's not easy.

Work continues. Where's my orange "man working" road-sign?