I think it's important to remember and patient with the fact that just like you are trying to figure out who you are after being in a conservative family that molded you, your friend is trying to figure out who he is. We all experience feelings that at times make us question ourselves and if we are good people at one point or another. I agree with Elysium. Support each other on your own journey to self discovery. Don't be too critical of yourself or your friend, there are plenty of other people in the world who will do that to you and your friends. Support each other as you can and you will both be better for it.