I didn't see a thread for this subject, so please move this if it isn't in the right spot.

Is there anyone out in the PC membership who has knowledge of long term addiction to marijuana? Recently I've reconnected with my brother who has a very long history of mj use. Probably started in his teens, and is now 51.

He won't admit to it. (being an addict). First thing each morning, according to both his wives, is gets high. He often doesn't come home in the evenings because he is at the bars.

What concerns me - and I know I can't do much about their situation - and haven't been involved in his life for many years, is that his 2nd wife of 14 years, is disabled/mostly bedridden, and she just called me out of the blue to confide in me about their marriage/situation/his abusive behavior towards her one minute and how he is in public with her, etc.

We have a family wedding to go to and she has become 'like a leach' to me after just one phone contact. I used to be what I thought was a great trait, 'a good listener', but now I see that isn't always in my best interest.

My sister-in-law has attemted suicide over the years many many times, is controling and yet, I do love both her and my brother. She is in severe chronic pain due to 3 failed back surgeries.

Her concern is about my brother buying a gun. She is afraid of guns, etc. So to 'overcome her fear' she got a gun and learned how to use it.

Total dysfunction. They live out of state, and we haven't had any real brother sister relationship since he was 8, when I left home to marry. But we have always been 'friendly' and haven't fought, but are happy to see each other over the years when that has happened.

I don't want to be sucked into their mess. but is there any hope for him to get clean and sober? I see his somewhat 'little concern for anyone but himself' behavior as very self distrucktive and don't know what I need to do about it. Let go and let God? HELP someone.