I have PMDD and am on Yaz which has helped a lot. I used to have ovarian cysts rupture every cycle and used to get so depressed right before that sometimes I would even become suicidal. I would go absolutely insane. Throwing stuff for no reason etc... My boyfriend finally told me that I had to get this under control and my mom said the same thing. So I went on Yaz and Lexapro. I still get pretty tired right before but everything else has ceased. I haven't had cramps or a ruptured cyst in months.

The main difference between PMS and PMDD is that PMDD is bad enough that it interferes with everyday activities. I would talk to your OBGYN about going on Yaz or some kind of medication. This sounds like a hormonal change and not just stress. I denied for a very long time that it was something I couldn't control. Once I finally admitted to myself that I really did need help, it got a lot better.

I hope you can find a way to control this. I know had bad it sucks