Thanks to all of you.

Yesterday I phoned my best girl friend for her advise. She has been sober for 13 plus years and she told me to not get sucked in, tell my sil to go to Al-anon asap.

I told B that sil is without transportation and she told me that there would be someone willing to come by and pick her up. She advised me to give sil this advise, if she started to make excuses, don't fight the point with her and 'disconnect' with her if she doesn't do that. As for my brother, he has had so many wake up calls, financial ruin, crashed his vehicle, etc... but doesn't see it.

After being in therapy for my own issues years ago, and having a mother who was in my opinion an alcoholic, I've done my role as co-dependant - done with that now, and don't want to go back there. Won't go back there.

My friend said, fall for it once, ok, fall for it twice, 'shame on you', from her AA 'club' as she calls it.

It is jus so darn sad that their lives are what they are when both of them won't wake up to what is really going on. But the guns are what scare me. I won't let it dominate me, I'll do the only thing I can.

Thanks.