You do know that soap opera's aren't real.....they are just DRAMA & that is not what real life is all about. I think the previous idea to get a T to help you through what you need to do is probably the best way of all......you are paying (or your insurance is paying) someone to objectively help you think rationally about your situation & put it behind you & get on with your real life.....not your DRAMA life (which really isn't real). Besides like it has been said before.....why waste your young life waiting for something that probably may never happen. Spend the effort you are using spinning your wheels where you are to go out & find someone that is really available & will make you a much better life.

Even if he would get the divorce, the money he makes would be put towards child support & if his wife really isn't doing anything....there will probably be spousal support too......what does that leave you....you will have to make a pretty good salary to make up for what he would be paying out....in other words, you would also be helping him support his previous marriage by being the support if you would even end up married to him....which isn't a sure thing either.

You can do it.....it will take determination & I am sure the support of friends or better, an objective T......but the bottom line is that you are going to end up doing what you want to with your life in spite of any suggestions by others.....you are the one that has to decide for yourself what you really want for your life.

Take care of yourself & your future first of all,

Debbie