I have the same problem. I spoke to my doctor about it. I take prozac. She added Wellbutrin. She thought it would help me, but it doesn't. My therapist thought there was a pill that the men take that women can take as well, but I don't think there is.
The only time I was able to get aroused was when I had a few drinks. And I quit drinking a year and a half ago.
My husband and I hardly have sex. I never feel like it. I satisfy him in other ways, though, so he's happy.