I'm late to this thread. Do I feel this? Sure. I know it - since I do it. I learned to do it from parents, friends, society, tv, teachers, leaders, etc.

Our goal in becoming somewhat enlightened in life is simply - how to feel good with ourselves even if people judge us. As Wayne Dyer said in some of his books: "When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself. "

My thinking is: Morals - they are limits to actions of people in a structured society which has defined how people should act. There is no good or bad - just what we judge that to be. Everything is a state of good or "being".

Conundrum - Granny thinks the rock music you listen to is devil music and you are bad for listening to it. Turns out the rock music is by a spiritual band who speaks of the joys of God and life and growth. The moral problem here is that someone else has judged you, you can determine whether you let that sink in or let that be their own definition of themselves and not you.

Oh, it's hard. I have lived for years thinking my wife judged me. Started with my mom when I was younger. This year has been the first year that I've worked on trying to find ways to just let it slide. This is very hard to do - but doable if you intend to get to a point in your life of peace and true happiness.

Let them judge you - your morals are fine. Because they're yours.

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