Dear Jen, I'm glad your husband signed divorce papers if that is what you want. Your 11 y/o daughter is just acting her age, as well as possibly responding to the divorce. You are doing very well if you are still working. I realize that you probably don't have time for therapy. You might find companionship, as well as answers to some of your life questions by joining an organizations for positives. There is one in my small area of TX, so I assume that you could find one nearby. Congratulations on your efforts to work yourself out of a negative situation, to work and to raise a "tween"! It can't be easy! billieJ