Dear liljobie ~ your signature says such a lot! I am sorry that you had such a monster in your childhood. Vindication is certain, and we are not to worry about it. I hope you have a good therapy program, and you can rely on many here, to include me. You are invited and requested to PM me at any time that you wish to ventilate or tell your story, as it is often in the telling and retelling that we find healing. Know that you are not to blame, and that anyone who calls you names will answer for that. Blessings to you and your brother - Caring About You ~ billieJ