Alex,

It sounds like your girlfriend has had a really rough life so far and she must hurt. But if she won't accept help, there just isn't much that you can do for her. People don't get better unless they want to, and if she is getting what she thinks she needs by having you worry about her all the time, she might never care about getting better. As long as you are trying harder than she is, it isn't going to work.

You have to take care of yourself, and sometimes when you are in a relationship with someone who has that kind of problems, whether or not they will go to counseling, you might need to go to counseling yourself in order to be able to deal with it and the effect that it can have on you.

We can't tell you how to fix your girlfriend's problems. If her psychiatrist hasn't gotten it worked out (have you tried asking him what you might be able to do?), then what do a bunch of people on the internet who have never met her know? But you're welcome to come here and talk, and we'll offer what support to you that we can.

Wendy

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