How disappointing. It sounds like you are seeing a T who may not feel that the relationship is an important part of therapy. Being commanded sounds like behavioral therapy. You may want to try another T who is a psychodynamic therapist.

You can research types of therapies and therapists. One site that helped me is www.guidetopsychology.com.

Be kind to you. It's good to know what you want and reject what isn't what you want.