This is a tough process; continue to listen to your gut instincts.
I also live in a place with a therapist or more on practically every street.
Currently I'm with t for a while but prior to this one I had met with at least six others. It was so tough; I only stuck it out because I was so determined to find a good t; I knew once I would hit upon the right one it would have all been worth it.
Have you asked friends or others for referrals?
If we live in the same city I can refer you to mine

She has said something commanding today and then asked me how I felt about it. I don't hesitate to tell my t's that being authoritative with me will send me running for the hills and that this brand of therapy does not work for me.

My motto is 'if you look forward to going to sessions and you leave sessions feeling better, you're in a good place' If you leave sessions feeling badly, that is your gut instinct telling you something ain't right here.

I hope you have the courage to try another one; or communicat to this one what about her approach is making it difficult for you to trust her; and would she feel comfortable using an approach that works for you?
Want to do that by phone? Or just schedule a consult with another therapist. I expect a client to come out of a consult with a renewed sense of hope and a sense of some connection to the t, and a sense of being understood.