Thank you everyone for your replies. I am so confused at this.

She did not have my file. I just moved here and have not had much therapy as an "adult". I told this T that I was having a hard time finding someone to trust and work with. My life is very complicated in a bad way and some T's can't work with it (ie. how I was raised).

Don't people look for the right T? It's not like I have tried 100 T's.

If a client is shutting down, how does commanding things and insulting me help? T was like when I say "X" and you don't do "X" that is not helping. T kept saying "therapy is hard work and you don't want to do it."
I just got there and I was scared. Yes, I am petrified of being in a small room with T... how is telling me that I am "pulling stuff" and not wanting to work helping? To even come to therapy for me is a big step. Maybe I am a failure, but I am trying.

I don't have problems with a little "direction" but I would think a relationship has to be developed before you tell a client to alter their behaviors or responses or anything.

And then after T was saying all this, I don't remember anymore. I was home.

I just feel like giving up...