Don't give up, Solar! I used the psychologytoday site which has a photo and detailed information about each T. There was one T who isn't a provider on my insurance so I didn't see her, but she says that many clients have told her that she is the first T they could trust. Look for statements like that from a T. I agree that the T you saw was terrible!! If I were you, I'd write down what you want the T to be like and say that over the phone before you make an appointment.

I know what you're going through because I'm doing it too! I saw 2 prospective Ts so far, and am going to try a third.

Good luck! I know you will find someone, and so will I.