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Old Feb 09, 2010, 11:37 AM
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Can you share your fears with your fiance without being accusatory? Maybe using I statements such as, "I get uncomfortable when you are staying late at work. Can you let me in on what you have to do so that I don't worry?" Things like that go a long way in relationships. I am learning this in couples therapy with my husband.

If he know about your illness, it makes it easier to talk about these things because you can flat out say things like, "This is probably my illness talking, but I worry about whether you are with your boss or another woman. I know it might make you angry to hear me say these things to you, but it is what my illness does to me so I need extra reassurance from you." It isn't an easy conversation to have, but it could take some of the worry away from you.

I hope you feel better soon.