I remember when I was calling potential Ts and one woman who I thought would be nice, but maybe young, when I saw her pic and read her little thingy on the computer was awful on the phone. Shooting questions at me and her requirements for ending completely with my old T before seeing her. SHe said all this not even knowing anything about my relationship with my other T or anything about me! It was about her requirements. Needless to say, I canceled the appt I made minutes after I made it.

You saw some Ts who you wouldnt like. I think you can tell a lot about a T on the phone if she/he allows that. I liked the fact that my T (and other one I liked) talked to me at length on the phone. She seemed to understand what I wanted.

Maybe, Solar, it would help to write some things down so you are clearer about what you want. This way you are not feeling around in the dark aas to whether you like someone or not. You will have some kind of direction with questions to ask and then you can evaluate whether their answer is comfortable for you or not.

When it became clearer to me what I was looking for, the T search got less confusing. It was easier to eliminate some fromn all those names.