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Originally Posted by Solarwind
If a client is shutting down, how does commanding things and insulting me help? T was like when I say "X" and you don't do "X" that is not helping. T kept saying "therapy is hard work and you don't want to do it."
I just got there and I was scared. Yes, I am petrified of being in a small room with T... how is telling me that I am "pulling stuff" and not wanting to work helping? To even come to therapy for me is a big step. Maybe I am a failure, but I am trying.
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Your T is making a lot of assumptions. And she has poor communication skills. She may think you are not trying, but she should share that with you and let you correct her assumption if it's wrong. She just seems inept and completely negative. My T is from the humanistic psychology tradition, which was allied with the human potential movement. It is a
positive tradition, not filled with the negative, like this T. It is an empowering tradition, not a "tear you down" experience. I wonder if you might like a humanistic T?
I hope you can get peace from this experience. It was not your fault; this T was exceptionally negative and unhelpful. Please don't let this discourage you from looking further. Maybe you can screen out the negative Ts over the phone. I'm not sure how--"are you negative?" probably isn't quite the right question to ask.
Hang in there.
