Hi Feeling Sad, I'm sorry. I'm so new to this board that I don't know people. Are you someone that suffers from BPD or are you in the same boat ~ loving one? I can tell you that simply finding this site and learning about the problem has helped dramatically. I'm still very sad about the change that came over someone who I care about, but I am coming to grips with possibly having to simply leave it alone. I'm so glad that (at the time) I didn't say or do anything mean or judging. I was so numb that I just told him not to be sad and that I loved him. In the moment, I felt that he was being cruel and uncaring ~ I'm realizing that he is the man that I knew before and his behavior is illness. May be illness that doesn't allow us to be together, but I'm so glad that I didn't compound his pain. Somehow, right now, that is giving me comfort. Thank you for your kind words and support.