Hi. Thanks for putting this out there. I would think most of us that have been sexually abused have problems with "being with" people lol. I'm sure it's normal. Okay, one thing for sure, you must trust the guy. Also, you really need to give the relationship time to bloom, before you move too fast physically. This is true for all women, not just the ones that have been sexually abuse. All women will have a problem feeling satisfied if they are rushed too fast to physically. Women are not like men, we NEED to feel a deep love connection to be able to feel satisfied. Also, especially since you were sexually abused, you do not need to feel rushed at all. That will just make you feel like he guy is trying to take advantage of you and totally ruin your trust. It will totally ruin your chances of having a relationship, because you might start to feel the anger you felt toward your abuser being directed at the guy you're dating. You have to be extra careful in this area, because you were hurt. And to be totally honest, if a guy isn't willing to wait until you're ready, he is not worth your damn time. You need a guy to respect you, your wishes, and your feelings. Please don't do anything too fast, or you might end up getting hurt. Sometimes you don't know who people really are these days. You don't want to do something you'll regret. My mother used to tell me, only have relations with someone you know you could marry.