((((((zoo))))))

I just wanted to tell you that last summer, my T and I had a summer-long rupture. It was AWFUL. And it was very much like you are describing with your T...it felt like something in him had changed and somehow we just couldn't connect. We talked and talked about it, and it just kept getting worse instead of better. I even have a message still saved from that time in which T acknowledged how horrible it felt for me and how frustrated he was feeling by it as well.

I honestly don't know how we found our way out of it. I think a lot of it was showing up over and over and over and over again and talking and talking and talking about it. Somehow, things shifted, and we connected, and, as usual after a rupture, we ended up even more connected than we were before the rupture. I think because we had to work so hard together to find our way out.

Don't lose hope, zoo. I think this is all part of the process. Hang in there.