i believe you. been there, bought the t shirt...it says victim crossed out..now survivor. wear it with pride.

anyway. i ask my t if she believes me all the time. and she says she does...all the time..and she says she will tell me that as many times as she has too.

i had a pdoc who i shared some memories of childhood abuse with and she told me that couldn't have happened.yep it did..i was there...

had a t who didn't validate the abuse either..made me doubt things as well altho with some of the memories she said she believed me too.

some people even tho they are trained to be t's just can't handle some of the stuff we tell them...i think as a person it may be to much..as a doc they can but the conflict comes into play for them at a point.

maybe they develop feelings for the client/patient whatever..and can't handle hearing what happened to them..they get to close and their reaction is skewed (and because we expect or hope for a different reaction the relationship if affected.

my t never looks at the logistics of my memories and says " physicialy that couldn't have happened or whatever" because when i was 5 that is how i recalled it or at 17 that is how it felt for me, etc. period...she isn't there to investigate the facts for a legal case but to help me deal with my sense of the facts...

ask your t...it feels like you don't believe me..i need for you feel like you believe me. i am a victim and a survivor...and for me to thrive and heal i need for you to help me process everything but it is essential for you to assist me with this...and for that i need to know that you believe what i tell you has happened. DO YOU BELIEVE ME?

call her on it...this is important for you...

and then wear that shirt with pride if you so wish..or burn it...that is okay too.

stumpy