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Originally Posted by Sannah
Z, I found this response of yours on Tree's thread. Could this info about your therapist be related to your issue on this thread???
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I don't know, Sannah, maybe? I think it's more that that's the kind of therapy she does, it's DBT and it's very structured. I've also been very passive in the 16 mos or so that I've been seeing T, and when she has given me the chance to lead the way I have always deferred to her.
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Originally Posted by treehouse
((((((zoo))))))
Don't lose hope, zoo. I think this is all part of the process. Hang in there.
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thank you for sharing that with me, tree.
I'm so glad you stuck with it and worked through it one way or another with T. I really needed to hear that today as I'm ready to give up on therapy but I will make myself show up, just keep showing up. Thank you.
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Originally Posted by stumpy
ask your t... it feels like you don't believe me..i need for you feel like you believe me. i am a victim and a survivor...and for me to thrive and heal i need for you to help me process everything but it is essential for you to assist me with this...and for that i need to know that you believe what i tell you has happened. DO YOU BELIEVE ME?
call her on it...this is important for you...
and then wear that shirt with pride if you so wish..or burn it...that is okay too.
stumpy
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stumpy, wow. I am SO SORRY you had a pdoc that said it couldn't have happened
and a T that was invalidating to you.
thank you so much for your words, I am going to copy that out into my journal and may say those exact things or something very similar to my T! I know I have asked her before if she believed me or told her that I need to hear that she believes me, but I guess I need to just tell her that "hey, guess what, I need to keep hearing that so I'm going to keep asking, ok??"
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Originally Posted by deliquesce
i think the "reason" comment is a useful one though - you can look at what your Ts reasons are for believing you, and for not believing you. with old-T, he provided a lot of forensic services, so i think his level of belief was set at a high standard e.g., i told him that a scar i have is in a different place to where it should have been based on my recollections; and all these little inaccuracies built up to him not believing me. but like stumpy said, you're not asking your T to certify the 100% accuracy of your memories, just the general fact that something happened.
i hope your T calls you back soon, sweetie .
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deli, I'm sorry you went through that too.
Your comment about the "reason" reminds me of what my T said the very first time I told her that I was afraid she didn't believe me. She said "I believe you because I have no reason not to" which seemed like an odd comment to me at the time and I still have a hard time getting my head around it.
I think it was so pounded into me from such a young age that "if you tell nobody will believe you" that even now when I know better and I'm not even talking about the same trauma it still
feels the same.