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Originally Posted by brickbat
And now...I want to email him again. Actually, I want to call him. Because I am REALLY freaking out, just totally overwhelmed with sadness and pain and uncertainty about the future with my ex, and it's just unbearable. I just need to hear his voice and have him tell me that I'll be okay. What do you all think? I feel like I need him so much right now  |
(((((((((Brickbat)))))))))) I'm sorry you're having such a hard time
I think it's up to each client/T pair to determine how much is too much. I have a lot of contact with my T outside of session. We've set up a lot of parameters so there are no misunderstandings. I'm allowed to call and e-mail as much as I need to. If I want a response, I specifically have to ask for one..otherwise, I can just know that he heard my message/read my e-mail (he always does). Sometimes the reply from him will be WAY delayed because he's busy, but I understand that. And I trust him to tell me if it's too much, because he promised he would.
I've e-mailed and called a lot lately too, and I asked him at my last session if he rolled his eyes or whatever when he heard my voice on his voice mail. And he said no, he knows how hard things are for me by how much I need to contact him...and it's okay.
So, that is how T and I have worked it out. Have you and T ever talked about how much if too much?? Maybe if you could have that conversation with T, it would give you some reassurance.