Thanks guys. Everything went really well. I am glad I was wrong about stuff too. I found out one thing too. I am not as dumb as some make me out to be! LOL Meaning if my husband would have just listened to me years ago, We may not have needed this therapy today! about 8 yrs ago I told him. We need to see a financial planner. I want to learn better how to save money etc.His reaction was to do donuts out in the barnyard! And I think its because it was my idea. He told me a few weeks ago, We need to look for a financial planner. Our T told us today that we need to think about doing this. I told him years ago we need a datenight. It started up.. and then he got to renigging on it. Today our T told us he wants us to do at least 2 date nights a month. And we cant talk about our problems. We have to get used to enjoying eachothers company again. And this is one way of keeping a balance in our relationship on that. We are to take turns on planning it too. So we both feel in control in planning what happens .I am cool with that. And the thing about all this is that T is going to hold us accountable to doing these things! There is no looking back now!I think Hubby thought it was all going to be on my shoulders to have to do all the work . He found another thing out! I cant help but smirk a little bit here . Theres alto more that we need to work on but I am positive that it will happen. I know better now than to say that I'll try in session though. When hubby did that , T gave him a pen of his and told him to hold it upright. He said try not to drop it without trying not to do it. He told him that he has to be in this wholeheartedly or not at all . Theres no ifs ands or buts about it. Thanks for all your support. I felt you with me today, I really did. Love you guys!

Hugz~
Bethy