Now that I think about abusive relationships, it always seems like the red flags are ignored or overlooked repeatedly. We seem to be quick to open our hearts &share our deepest pain with someone who slides into the appropriate place in our lives. We are so use to opening up & sharing who we are that we will tell a virtual strange, our most painful secrets not realizing that they themselves have not opened up & shared anything about their abuse. All this even after we have already been abused. Everyone who responded to your post including myself needs to protect themself from harm. How do we know there is not a troll here? Please be considerate & show some good faith so we can feel safe.