I want a T to show me in words or actions that she cares about me. I want her to be a "real person" and be willing to share some of her life with me. I want to feel "safe" with her; however she manages to do that is okay. I want a T to allow phone calls and email within reason, and to respond to me in a timely manner. I want a T who understands my issues and who is willing to let me go where I want with them. Of course she has to be patient, kind, nurturing, consistent, compassionate, and definitely someone who gives me her complete attention during the session. She has to see me as a person, not a diagnosis. I also want a T who will encourage me to feel my feelings in therapy, not just talk about my feelings as I have done in the past. Someone who will allow me to let all of my feelings out but will not let me "fall off the cliff." She has to know what she is doing!

The T I am going to see has most, if not all of these requirements.