Interesting you posted this. I had an argument of sorts with a previous T (desk-T) about just this. I used to do this a lot with my husband. Put my depression or anger or fear or whatever needs into sex. She wasnt happy with it either. I wasnt happy with her interpretation of how I handled my feelings.

If you say it was seriously wonderful afterwards then whats the problem? You still have to deal with the bad news that came in the mail. I also didnt feel like I used sex as a drug. I wasnt looking for another "high" afterward.

Im sorry about your bad news. I hope things turn around for you soon. But Im glad you have someone to comfort and help you thru it all.